Shame is a beautiful emotion. Shame helps protect people from harmful instincts. And because of shame we usually refrain from indecent activities. Shame often deters us from engaging in tempting but socially unacceptable activities, such as stealing, incest, etc.
But while shame is naturally beneficial, its excess or distorting effects can make any person’s life chaotic or even disruptive. Shame can then mask anger, stubbornness, pride, depression, silence.
People with latent shame are always swinging between shame and pride. Success gives them a temporary boost of pride, while any minor failure reinforces feelings of shame and inadequacy. The more one gets rid of this latent shame, the more joyful life can become. So you can follow the following 5 methods to get rid of latent shame.
Bring shame out into the open
Bring shame out into the open through identification. Identify any people, places, things or activities you avoid. Discover the underlying shame behind their avoidance.
Don’t run away
The nature of shame is to hide or run away. So it has to be dealt with in reverse. That is, when you are about to lower your eyes in shame, look directly into the eyes and think to yourself, I have nothing to be ashamed of.
Avoid those
Avoid people who you feel are deliberately trying to embarrass you. Change the way you relate to them.
Repeating the previous scene
Prominent psychologist Dr. Gerschen Kaufman mentions the wonderful experience of escaping embarrassing situations by sitting quietly and thinking. During his student days, he fell on the stage while giving a speech to a class. There was laughter among the students. He felt shy and henceforth developed a fear of speaking. After completing his studies, he used to sit quietly for some time to remove this shame and repeat the previous scene and end it by incarnating a positive scene. In this way he transforms shameful memories into memories of success. Speech- which was at one time Dr. For Kaufman, the nightmare turns into a joyous affair.
Accept mistakes easily
The greatest antidote to shame is self-esteem and confidence. Start respecting yourself. Think of yourself as a unique creation. No man is free from guilt. You may also have errors. Accept that mistake easily. And develop the virtues that exist. People will respect your developed qualities. Your self-esteem will also increase.
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